Feeling anxious around a specific person is more common than you might think. It’s often a result of your brain detecting subtle signs of emotional discomfort, danger, or unresolved issues related to that individual — even if they aren’t an actual threat.
Psychological Reasons Why One Person Might Trigger Anxiety
Here are some of the most common underlying causes:
1. Past Negative Experiences
If someone reminds you of a painful or traumatic event — even subconsciously — your brain may associate them with that memory. This is known as a trauma trigger.
2. Unresolved Conflict
Lingering arguments, misunderstandings, or unspoken tension can create emotional stress whenever you’re around that person.
3. Toxic or Manipulative Behavior
People who are emotionally unpredictable, controlling, or manipulative often create a sense of psychological instability, which leads to anxiety.
4. Fear of Judgment or Rejection
You may feel anxious because you worry about how that person perceives you. This is especially common in relationships involving:
- Authority figures (boss, teacher)
- Parents or caregivers
- Romantic partners
5. Low Self-Esteem or Insecurity
Sometimes, the anxiety comes from within. If you’re struggling with self-worth, being around someone confident, critical, or emotionally intense can feel overwhelming.
What’s Really Happening in Your Brain?
When you’re around someone who triggers anxiety, your brain may go into a “fight-or-flight” response — even if there’s no real danger. Your nervous system is trying to protect you, based on perceived emotional or psychological threats.
What Can You Do About It?
- Identify the Trigger: What specifically about this person makes you feel anxious? (Tone of voice, past behavior, unpredictability?)
- Set Boundaries: If possible, limit interactions or create emotional distance.
- Practice Emotional Regulation: Techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, and grounding exercises can help you stay calm in the moment.
- Seek Therapy: A mental health professional can help you explore the root cause, understand your emotional responses, and develop healthy coping strategies.
Therapist’s Insight:
“Anxiety is a signal — not a flaw. When one person causes it, it’s often about your nervous system responding to a pattern it recognizes as unsafe. Understanding that pattern is the first step toward healing.”
Key Takeaway:
One person can cause you anxiety due to unresolved emotional triggers, past trauma, toxic dynamics, or fear-based patterns. The good news is, with the right support, you can learn to manage your reactions and take back control.